Reconnecting

“A Misbehaving child is a frustrated child.” This is something I always try to remind myself when my children are struggling. It is a reminder to stop and analyze what my child is telling me. Are they looking for more attention? Do they need more support in new situations? Do they need help feeling more confident? Do they feel valued? Important? Like they belong? What is hidden message of their behavior? Are they hungry or tired? Once you have determined what your child is seeking, you can ensure you are providing the support, love and care your child needs.

One of the most wonderful ways to do this is to reconnect with your child. Your child is sending you an important message that they need something from you. This is one of the most important messages they could ever send you. Reconnecting with your child sends them the message they are important, they are valued, they are meaningful to you.

How do you reconnect with your child?

·       Carve out time. Ensure your child is going to get your undivided attention.

·       Create a plan. Talk with your child about what they want to do with you. Give them some options. Is it play a favorite game? Share a special treat? Create something together?

·       Let your child take the lead. Is there something on their mind they want to talk about? Or do they want to keep it fun and silly? Take their cues from them.

·       Make them feel special. Say “I love you” Share what you appreciate about them. Let them know they matter to you.

·       Try to create these opportunities often. Even if they are short and simple. They matter and make a big difference.

This time together helps foster strong relationships, builds respect and minimizes frustrations. It is amazing how a little special time together makes a big difference to the most important people in our lives. Make the time, they are worth it!